Reshma Abraham is a sophomore at Boston College, majoring in Biology and minoring in Public Health. She is the Professional Development Director for BC's Leading Women of Tomorrow, editor for the Literary Sciences Journal, and member of the Public Health and Women in STEM clubs. In her free time, Reshma dances for BC Masti, works in a research lab, and plays tennis.
Maybe you were a student in school on the brink of graduation. Maybe you were a parent who suddenly found their secure livelihood in jeopardy when you were forced to stay home. Or maybe you are just yet another individual who feels limited by the lack of choice brought on by the onset of the COVID-19 pandemic. Whatever your situation may be, it is safe to say that mandatory quarantine has most likely affected your life in more ways than one. As a stay-at-home order that began as a few months now extends indefinitely into the future with no end in sight, hope for a return to normalcy may seem like a hollow dream. However, while many of us have had to press pause on in-person activities (dining out, attending religious services, graduations to name a few), this dynamic, ever-changing situation also presents us with a unique challenge we may never have been faced with before.
Like most of us, I watched online mass and attended adoration from the confines of my living room for the past few months. Initially, it felt strange and isolating to follow along with the rituals of the Sunday mass without the voices of the church community behind me and the proximity to the Eucharist. As youth member Merlin Joyce put it, “getting used to virtual mass was a real challenge.” While I tried to emulate the feeling of being in the physical presence of God, it was difficult to not let my mind wander or resist the urge to sit down during a longer portion of the mass. However, despite the struggles that came with the situation, the experience was truly eye-opening.This limitation in my full and meaningful participation in mass became more apparent at home, where it was easier to become distracted or careless.
I realized that I had fallen into a rut of mindlessly going through the motions of the mass, without stopping to consider the meaning of the rituals. Now that there were no excuses of a lack of time or accessibility, I could easily see that prayer had always been a matter of priority. The difference between making time for God and setting aside time for God is important. If we consciously dedicate portions of our day to learning and growing with God, we will naturally become more attentive and present during mass.
Quarantine happened up a wealth of opportunities that were not possible earlier, including the ability to view masses and prayers from anywhere in the world. I used my time to learn more about different Catholic rites around the globe, like Australia, Britain, and Cape Town. It was fascinating to see the variations that make each service unique, while finding a common bond in the Eucharistic tradition that unites us all together. Jilu Chengat, national Jesus Youth coordinator and speaker for the Summer Syro Series, described online mass as an indicator of “the power of spiritual communion with God and the wider Church, showing us that we remain with him even when we cannot be in His physical presence.” The pressure to force myself to stay engaged with the mass was slowly replaced by an increasing excitement to explore the true meanings behind the actions. While we may never have imagined ourselves in this situation, the knowledge we can gain from these experiences brings us closer to understanding our relationship with God.
Another beautiful facet of quarantine prayer has been the ability to attend events such as the Summer Syro Series, a four-part speaker event that featured talks on topics geared towards college students such as hookup culture, inner wounds, balancing faith and family, and mental health. I had the chance to interview Jilu Chengat who emphasized the verse “rooted and built up in him, strengthened in the faith as you were taught, and overflowing with thankfulness” in her conversation on how to balance faith and family. Chengat recounted her own experience with the quote to her audience. “Rooted” to her means the many ways we are formed by different things- family, CCD classes, culture. However, she also believes that the fears, lies, and darkness we face forms another part of this root system. At times when her faith was wavering, Jilu found herself strengthened by the parts of her life that were “truly influenced by God” and managed to remain thankful for what she had been given. Many of the youth who attended found it comforting to hear from a fellow second-generation Malayali-American the same struggles they face and appreciated the honest questions and answers that addressed the topic. These issues are extremely relevant to today’s young people, who need to discover the connection between their life and faith, without seeing the two as distinct priorities.
Prayer is often defined as an individual’s personal relationship with God. But, community plays such a significant role in how much we develop these relationships. For students that are in online class and unable to get as closely involved in parish events and service, Jilu suggests coming together and “providing a support network to others going through the same struggle.” There is so much value to sharing our highs and lows with others, so staying connected to our brothers and sisters and checking in with another to hold ourselves accountable will be helpful in maintaining a steady prayer routine.
Finally, the power of starting off with a simple routine that you stick to, is immeasurable. Many young adults may feel overwhelmed by the sudden disruption to their daily lives or may not have a home environment that supports their prayer needs. Even with these difficulties, we can adhere to a few daily goals-- perhaps praying the rosary every night or attending a virtual retreat-- that can make the task of finding ourselves in faith slightly less daunting. Make efforts to remain active members of our church community.
Participate in events like the DYA College Kickoff that promote a sense of togetherness as we all return to our academic lives in different ways. Follow Instagram accounts like @syrocreatives that attempt to integrate faith with passions through the expression of digital art on historical symbols of the Syro-Malabar community. Attend webinars like the Jesus Youth CreArt that showcase artists who have brought creativity to their prayer lives and successfully express their faith. Pray with purpose.
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