Fr. Pinto Paul is the International Director of the Boston-based Holy Cross Family Ministries. In this role, he oversees the programs and services at centers in 17 countries.
This month, I would like to invite you to make your families more alive with purposefulness. By definition, purposefulness means an unwavering firmness of character, action, or will. A purposeful person shows that he/she has a definite aim and a strong desire to achieve it. In today’s society, many people have lost their purpose. Particularly during this pandemic, many, I have come across, are stressed, lonely, anxious, and too often sad.
The world is going too fast. People have lost physically, emotionally, mentally, and financially and their relationships with others have been threatened.
Dr. Gregory and Lisa Popcak, Catholic psychotherapists, in their presentation at the webinar - Peyton Institute for Domestic Church Life: Think Tank to develop new models of family prayer and spirituality, recently reported that a 2021 study by the University of South Florida found children experiencing up to a 40% uptick in “emotional risk.”
Many children and families have lost their purposefulness. How do they get it back?
When I was in seminary back in India, I had an interesting, but intense course that helped me prepare to help people regain their purposefulness. The course was part of a Personality and Human Relations (PRH) program called “Who am I?” The focus of the course was to help us seminarians discover who we were at the core of our being and build our relationships with God and others in preparation for our vocations.
Today, families can lead a purposeful life by getting in touch with the core of their being, where they can be in communion with God the Source of life, who made them, who loves them, and who sustains them.
Then they will experience meaning, fulfillment and happiness in their job, marriage, family, and anything else on their mind.
While current psychology and psychologists tell us how to discover our identity and get in touch with the core of our being, we should look to God for help in the process. Being with God in prayer helps us see Jesus for who He is and discover our identity in relationship to Him. When we see ourselves next to Him, we want to be more like Him. As we frequently sing: “Turn your eyes upon Jesus; Look full in His wonderful face, and the things of earth will grow strangely dim; in the light of His glory and grace.”
Seeing Jesus for who He is will prompt us to grow in our relationship with Him and with others and love and serve Him in our vocation. As individuals and families when we are true to our innermost being, the source of our life, we will start living a purposeful life of happiness, our life will turn to be healthy, and we will become holy. We will have everything.
During the month of October(being the month dedicated to Blessed Mother Mary), make an effort to pray the Rosary every evening.
Once a week, gather the family to talk about a set of mysteries beginning with Joyful Mysteries, followed by Sorrowful Mysteries, Glorious Mysteries, and Luminous Mysteries.