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Preetha Kingsview is an experienced educator, independent collegial leadership coach, and wife of Sebe Kingsview with two sons. Preetha is a long-time member of St. Mary’s Indian Orthodox Church in Maynard, MA, serving also as the principal of the parish Sunday School. As part of her church responsibilities, she is also the Associate Exam Coordinator. She works as a MAED research coach at St. Catherine University, MA. Preetha is also a Doctoral student in Complementary and Alternative Medicine with a concentration in Integrative Health. Apart from all the above, Preetha is most proud about being a mom to her children. Public speaking, writing, reading, biking, watching Patriots football games, spending outdoors with her family are few of her favorite hobbies.
“Step out of the history that is holding you back. Step into the new story you are willing to create.” Oprah Winfrey
“Step out of the history that is holding you back. Step into the new story you are willing to create.” Oprah Winfrey
Integration is the root of self-love and forgiveness. As we celebrate Women’s History Month, let us take a vow to integrate every aspect of our being. As a Christian, a crucial relationship Jesus modeled through his life and death is the deep relationship between this double-edged sword between integration and fragmentation. This can either break us or uplift us. To understand this relationship, we must first acknowledge the hardest truth that there exists an evil self within us. A power where evil, hurtful unwanted sorrow-filled, and darkest thoughts come from. Finding time to reflect is key to recycling our mental-emotional system. Once we accept, then with ease we allow ourselves to receive our Lord’s answers of course in God’s time. We are then at ease and when at ease, we are not easily subjected to dis“ease”. Lack of ease with uncertainties, holding on to our past negative emotions and negative experiences, not letting go of our adversities for a long time can be stored as trauma in the brain. Trauma memories trigger defense mechanisms. We, then tend to live in flight/fight/freeze or resentment mode.
As Christians, as women, let us take a wow to allow ourselves to feel anger, hatred, sadness, or frustration. That is what Jesus did when he retired to the woods to rejuvenate his mind so he could come back fully integrated with his best self.
As Christians, as women, let us take a wow to allow ourselves to feel anger, hatred, sadness, or frustration. That is what Jesus did when he retired to the woods to rejuvenate his mind so he could come back fully integrated with his best self.
Acknowledging this self is the first step to integration and allowing compassion for ourselves. According to Virginia Satir, a psychotherapist recognized for her work in family therapy said,
“Change begins with learning to accept and understand the many parts to oneself.”
“Change begins with learning to accept and understand the many parts to oneself.”
Accepting and acknowledging our unwanted thoughts requires quite a bit of reflection. Reflecting daily through mindfulness activities such as meditation, connecting with nature to cleanse our systems, giving without the need of recognition, practicing yoga, finding gratitude, learning to let go of attachments to likes and dislikes, listening to music, laughing daily, making someone smile, letting go of temptations given by our eyes, ears, olfactory, verbal, and touch senses, journaling our darkest deepest saddest thoughts, expressing appreciation for at least 5 people daily, embracing warmth are what Jesus modeled throughout his life with grace and strength.
A jigsaw puzzle is never complete without the last missing piece. We need to integrate every piece of us for we are spiritual beings that will stay fragmented instead of living. We will barely move forward. Live fully even through difficult times like Jesus modeled, the weaknesses he kept close.
As Women of today, it is crucial we model self-care now more than ever for humanity to exist and thrive among generations to come.
As Women of today, it is crucial we model self-care now more than ever for humanity to exist and thrive among generations to come.
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